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Beginner’s Guide to Prostate Play

Prostate Play, Prostate Massage, Prostate Milking, are all the same thing, just a different name depending on the context.

What is the Prostate Anyway?

The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that is a key component of the male reproductive system. The Prostate creates prostatic fluid, which makes up around 30% of the fluid that is ejaculated (sperm and fluid from the seminal vesicles make up the rest). The urethra runs through the center of the prostate from bladder to the penis (which is why sounding is effective, but that’s a topic for a future article).

Why Stimulate the Prostate?

By stimulating the prostate, a man can have what is referred to as a prostate orgasm. Unlike a penile orgasm, a prostate orgasm can feel like a total body experience, waves of tingling sensations, almost like electricity running through the body. This can be incredibly intense. There is also no refractory period (recovery time) from a prostate orgasm like there is with a penile orgasm, meaning men can have numerous prostate orgasms in a row.

In short, stimulating the prostate can result in mind-blowing orgasms.

Basic information and Misinformation

Ok, so we have enough reasons here to decide that stimulating the prostate can be an amazing experience, how do we go about stimulating the prostate?

the prostateThe prostate is an internal organ, so there is no way to get to it directly, but the closest you can get is through the rectum. It is usually located about 2-3″ inside the rectum. That’s right folks, the best access to stimulate the prostate is through the poop chute. This may be a deal breaker for some people right off the bat. There are several reasons why people don’t like anything entering through their backdoor, but most of them are unfounded.

  • Fear of pain
    When properly done, there should never be any pain with any kind of anal play. If there is any pain, something is wrong and needs to be addressed immediately. It may seem weird or slightly uncomfortable at first, but this is going to be a journey, not a quick goal.
  • Fear of not feeling masculine
    A man feeling penetrated by a toy or a woman’s finger can make some men feel like this is not a masculine activity and in some relationships, the female may feel this way too. I can only say that any given sex act is not inherently feminine or masculine, it’s just an act that is done between two partners.
  • Feeling like any male butt play is gay
    This is just a social stigma that has no basis in truth. The mental gymnastics to get here is that gay men do anal sex, therefor anal sex of any kind is gay. Well, gay men kiss, hold hands, give blow jobs, and hand jobs more often than anal sex and we don’t see those acts as gay and many men have had anal sex with a woman, and we don’t consider that gay.

How to Stimulate the Prostate

The first thing to note is that the prostate will enlarge and get warm as a man is sexually aroused, this is when it is most effective to stimulate the prostate as it will be in a state of readiness.

One of the most effective ways to stimulate the prostate is with a finger. inserting a finger through the man’s shitshooter and pointing towards the belly button, you should be able to feel the prostate through the rectal wall. A gentle tapping motion or moving the finger in a “come here” motion is going to be very effective. Unlike penile stimulation, prostate stimulation is a marathon, not a sprint. Getting a prostate stimulated to the point of orgasm can take 20-60 minutes, so be prepared for this to be a serious time commitment.

The second way to simulate the prostate is with toys. Dildos, prostate massagers, and vibrators are all commonly used. A method that is gaining in popularity over the years is pegging, where a woman wears a harness with a dildo attached and performs the same thrusting actions that a man does when having vaginal sex.

Proper Prep for Positive Prostate Pleasure

Ok, we need to address the question that is probably on most people’s mind at this point. Isn’t there poop in there? Well….no….and yes….and maybe. Actual poop is “stored” higher in the rectum and not in the lower cavity where we will be playing. Does that mean that there is no chance of shaking hands with Mr. Hanky? To be honest…no. Anytime you are knocking on shit’s door, you might end up shacking hands so to speak. This is where proper prep comes into play.


Next time you go drop a dookie, take a look at, it is nice and firm and all in one or several main pieces with a dryer texture to it? When you wipe, do you only need a small amount of tissue to get clean? If this describes you, then you are in pretty good shape. However, if you chocolate potatoes are wet, slimy, and loose, and you use half a roll of toilet paper to get cleaned up afterwards, then you need to add some fiber to your diet. Taking a psyllium husk supplement is inexpensive and flat out good for your digestion. Fiber will go a long way towards having a cleaner experience.

Pre-Game Cleaning

Of course, external cleaning is important. A good shower first or a nice cleansing with baby wipes will get your starfish all nice and pretty. Internally, an anal enema can be used to flush out any residual butt nuggets. Just a few flushes with just warm water until it is coming out clear will ensure a clean experience.


To wrap things up here, prostate play can be an incredible experience but, as I said, this is a journey, not a destination. Getting to the point of orgasm can take practice and patience. You really need to be in the right mindset, properly aroused, relaxed enough for it to not cause any pain, and patient enough to know it may not happen on the first few tries.

A good resource of additional information can be found on Reddit at r/ProstateFun.

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